How to know you are in a safe relationship
The Mainamind Experience
Hi,
I am happy to get back to our newsletter, to write down my thoughts, tell you about my week and spend hours thinking about a “click-baity” title just saw you prioritise this email 😂
I promise you though I am about to share real gems on here that have personaly been indicators for safe nurturing relationships. So let’s get into it:
For as long as you have the same traumas you will attract the same problems in every relationship that you chase! (Read that again)
I have shared this piece of advice with myself every moment I have been tempted to think that the grass is greener elsewhere.
In truth the grass is greener where you water it!
It is a reminder to work on myself first because we all know by now, you attract who you are.
So here are three tiny indicators that you are in a safe relationship:
You can be childlike in your relationship: I am tempted to say that you can be yourself but even that doesn’t cut it because we are ever changing; but once you can be completely stripped down (metaphorically to mean open up) in your own relationship, no walls, just your absolute goofy and playful self with your partner and not feel shut down then you are on to something. Think of a child in a safe environment
You no longer feel the need to Entertain: In other words you can co-exist in silence with your partner. You do not feel the need to feel in gaps of silence with noise just to keep them interested in you or avoid “awkward silence” once you can exist in silence with your partner and still feel close to them; good for you. In silence is where you experience someone in their most intimate self.
You can share good news with them: Good relationships are the ones where you feel safe enough to share badnews; the best relationships are where you feel safe enough to share good news. To share it and not made to feel like you are bragging. To share it with someone who makes a big deal out of it like it is their own good news too; because how many times (even with those close to you) do you down play your wins or keep a low profile; to avoid coming off as boastful and full of yourself?
THE MAINAMIND EXPERIENCE
I share these little nuggest and more in my poetry podcast #themainamindexperience
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WHAT I HAVE BEEN UP TO …
Binging on Young, famous and african
I know everyone has their opinion on who the dislike, who is dramatic and who deserves a big cuddle but it’s been a while since I have been thoroughly entertained by trash TV and all the while i was watching all i could think is how did the producers of this show pull this off because those are the real geniuses no lie.
Working on my First EP
Cat’s out of the basket, I have few poems I want to put in a song. Writing recently after coming out of a crazy brain fog has been so fufilling I am getting sudden outbursts of creativity every midnight and it is no wonder the name of the EP/Album will reflect this weird habit.
There you have it. I hope your start to the year is somewhat exciting or peaceful or a presentation of much needed clarity.
Now go swim here: Leave a follow and rate the show, it goes a long way.
Love + Light,
Mainamind.